I find this empty nest stage of life rather amusing. For so many years our lives revolved around our kids’ needs and schedules, but now that they’ve both grown up, my husband and I are like a ship without an anchor. There are many options available to us, but we’re drifting in the Doldrums waiting for the winds of change to send us in a new direction.
Should we buy a boat…or an RV?
Should we remodel or downsize?
Should we stay put or take advantage of this time and move somewhere new and exotic?
I have to laugh as I hear similar thoughts from friends who are shopping for campers or smaller homes. Maybe this is what is meant by “midlife crisis.” I always thought of people who went out and bought a new sports car or divorced their spouse of 20 years for a younger model, but I guess it can come in other forms, too. After raising children for so long, having so much freedom can be perplexing.
It’s also funny how the tables turn. For the past 25 years, my husband and I have made the decisions about where to live. Now we find ourselves saying things like “wait and see where the kids end up.” Our parents and their needs are also on our minds.
This feeling also pervades my blogging. I have so many half-written posts that I’ve been unable to finish. Sometimes I lack confidence, and sometimes they seem too self-indulgent. Over the winter, I really wasn’t doing anything worth writing about, and lately, we’ve had other things that needed tending to. Or is God redirecting me and I’m waiting on Him? It feels like a combination of all of the above, so while waiting, I’ve been putting my energy towards other areas.
My husband and I entertain ourselves with these discussions, but for now, we’ve decided to try to relax and enjoy the quietness of this period.
Come to think of it, maybe we do need a boat after all.